Humility

This has come up a lot over the last few months as I've been asked, “Why can’t I figure it out on my own?” Often in regards to reiki and working with one's energy and intuition, processing emotions and mental blocks, and well this can be true for other areas of life.

It’s fantastic to learn ways to take care of yourself and be self-sufficient but it’s equally important to know when it's okay and even emotionally healthy to ask for help or to allow someone to shine light on a situation. For instance, having a therapist when one is mentally stuck. Or a personal trainer when you're wanting to understand how your body is meant to move.

Throughout my life I was forced to be self-sufficient due to the environment and situations where there was no choice to rely much on others. This can create important qualities in a person but unfortunately that isn’t sustainable and over time will become draining for the mind and body. My body started to show this back when I was 19 years old. I didn’t know it at the time but looking back that’s what it was. Which was also the same time that I was meeting knowledgeable professionals eager to help me. It’s taken a long time for me to find my trusted people, people that I've longed for. But I needed to learn how to let people in first as my walls were high and thick.

Years later and a lot of inner and outward healing..

The seminar I went to was very well timed. I learned about how to work the muscles of the pelvis which includes muscles within your hips and abdomen and low back. The work I experienced in class was wonderful and helped my hip issues so much! But muscle and fascia all have memory and will only hold the improvements for so long. For me it was just shy of a week when my back went out. My issues are from a lot of different things. But with the knowledge of my body and why it is the way it is from working with my personal trainer and the other professionals throughout my life. I was able to correct the issue by teaching my hubby how to help me with a new technique I had learned over the weekend. 

I knew what to do but I couldn’t do it on my own. It worked, enough to allow me to work but I still massaged the area between clients. Then I saw my trainer, which surprised my hubby as I was hurt and he knew it. I said, she knows how to help me more. Guess what she did! The whole session was focused on the area and I explained what I was doing when it went out and we both were on the same page. She had me do very specific stretches that honestly felt like a major workout to the area. For the following week I continued to do very specific bodywork and exercises to support the muscles and release the tension. Things gradually improved as I was working on things between clients the first day, so about 5 times that day and then eventually down to once a day.

Sometimes you can do it on your own and sometimes help is wise. It’s equally important to have family, friends and professionals that you trust as when you trust that increases the speed of your recovery time (little fact I learned during the seminar).

Simply put, us humans are not meant to be alone all the time. We all have amazing skills and gifts to help each other out. It’s great to do things on your own and wonderful to allow people in. Even if it’s just to vent. I hope you have some amazing people in your life and if not, maybe you’ve thought about connecting with a specific person. Be mindful of what stops you, maybe there's a good reason, maybe not.